I’m often asked: “do you do one to one self defence tuition?” Difficult one this. I often point out that if the person I’m teaching/coaching is performing techniques on me, then it’s difficult for me to stand back and make an accurate appraisal. I also suspect, and have been proved correct on occasion, that the individual is so lacking in self confidence that they can’t operate in a room full of people.
Now as self defence/protection tackles the issues of physical and threatened conflict between individuals I’m very wary of those asking for private tuition “‘cos they couldn’t possibly ever make a class.” Personally, I don’t believe I can help these people – I know others would welcome them with open wallets, but not me.
Then there are the belt-hunters. I’m not adverse to private tuition as an introduction to a martial art or an additional learning path but when it becomes a side-step to training in the dojo and a quick route to a black belt then I’m not interested. Sure my bank manager would approve, but there other things just as valuable to me as cash: integrity, honesty, hard work – generally the things money can’t buy.
However (tell me you saw that coming? the ubiquitous catch-all for: hey I have values, but I also subscribe to a convenient cop-out) I am on the verge of a rethink. At least for now and only for a certain set of circumstances … I’ll let you know how it pans out.